So, I started this blog “Baby Boomer Rants”, because I have a few very definite complaints, gripes, rants, whatever you want to call them. They are mostly about raising children. I guess because I look at how differently people are raising their kids than when I raised mine.
I told you I have 4 kids, and only 1 is left at home. I don’t think I know it all, but, I have been there and done that – so what I have to say has some value, right?
Today, I want to rant about speech therapy. Ok, before you get upset with me, I TOTALLY think there are kids who benefit from it, and it is definitely a needed service. However, I DO NOT think every kid needs speech therapy and right now I see parents being pushed left and right from Doctors and friends to have their kids tested to see if they need speech therapy.
I am shocked at how many people have taken their kids for speech therapy and how many think their kids need it! I had 4 kids, and if they were young today – I would have been pushed to have at least 2 of them in speech therapy. One stuttered when he was 5… but, I KNEW it was only when he was over-excited and he needed to stop and take a breath and start again. I also knew he’d grow out of it, and in about 6 months, he did.
In the last year, 2 close friends have been told by Doctors and friends that their children needed speech therapy because they weren’t talking enough. They were both around 2 years old. I told both Moms that I thought their kids were fine (unsolicited advice ). Both of their children are thinkers and you can just “see the wheels turning in their heads”. Now, many months later they are both talking and developing just fine. But, in both cases the parents were made to feel if they didn’t get the therapy (neither continued the therapy after 1 visit) that they were neglecting their child.
From my experience in raising kids, working in daycare centers and just generally being very involved with kids over the years, kids they talk when they are ready (again, I know some DO need speech therapy). I have seen some wait until they could speak in complete sentences and just bust out talking one day. I have seen some kids talk at 9 months and some not for a few years. It’s the same with walking, my daughter walked at 9 months and I had one son who waited until he was almost 14 months.
They are all different and develop at different speeds. Don’t compare your kids to others or worry about other kids their age so much. Don’t be pushed into anything by friends, parents or Doctors. I have seen parents become unsure of themselves and their role as a parent because they are comparing their kids, or someone says something offhanded that makes them worry about their parenting skills.
You know your kids, you live with them 24-7, no one knows them like you do. Parent with your gut. I have always told expectant moms “You’ll get a ton of advice – even from me – take what you like and throw out the rest.”, that’s the best advice I can give. They are your kids, and ultimately it’s your responsibility, don’t let others try and dictate how you take care of your kids.
I am not a Doctor and anything I say here should not be taken as medical advice.
I’m almost scared to ask, but, what are your thoughts ?