Let’s talk potty training.
I have noticed a trend of parents waiting longer and longer to potty train. In my opinion this makes it harder on parents AND kids. Why would anyone want to make it harder on themselves and the kids? I think waiting longer makes it harder for them to grasp it and “break the habit” of using a diaper, and harder on parents to have to keep buying diapers and cleaning up messes for years.
I asked my 85 year old Mom how old we were when she potty trained. She said across the board she and her friends potty trained their kids at 12 months. That sounds really early, I know – but, my first WAS potty trained at 12 months, but the ladies in the nursery at church decided that that was too young and wouldn’t take her to the potty and would put a diaper on her as soon as I dropped her off. Being that we went to church twice on Sunday and midweek, that was too confusing for her, in my opinion, so I put her back in diapers and waited until she was in the next nursery up and that was the 2 year old nursery. After that, our boys were all potty trained by the time they were 2 1/2.
But, now it seems that kids are even older when they begin potty training. I wonder if the fact that the manufacturers have started making diapers for older kids and the “pull up” type diapers if that isn’t causing some of it. They are duping parents into spending way more on diapers for a longer period of time.
Another thing I did with mine was once they were out of diapers, they were out of diapers. No “pull up” type pants, no diapers at bedtime, nothing. Was it inconvenient for me? SURE! I am a parent! That’s part of the life of a parent. But, I didn’t want that expense and I felt like it was confusing for them – that sometimes they could go in their pants and other times, no… Surely, that would confuse a toddler.
Now, is every kid going to be potty trained in the exact same way, at the exact same age? No. I had 4 kids, 1 girl and 3 boys. The boys were older than my daughter when they learned. You have to know when they understand enough to get it. I know plenty of 2 year olds that can hold a conversation, and I think that might be a clue that they can also be potty trained.
Don’t get me wrong and let me say it again, I DO believe all kids are different and will be different ages when they are ready. I just think that the manufacturers are making money and parents are falling for it, again because it’s easy.
I told someone the other day that when I potty trained my kids it took a full day – and they were shocked! Not that the kids could be trained that fast but, that I devoted a full day to it… C’mon now – as parents we do have to do the “hard stuff”, too. I spent a full day with each one and that’s all we worked on that day – between saltines, kool-aid and cartoons, we sat all day and waited and worked! lol We also celebrated (not like the celebrations on TV), but we clapped and called Grandma They were also working towards a prize. With my Daughter it was the cutest little red, ruffled underwear and she was so happy to “earn” them, and with the boys it was their favorite character underwear.
So, why do you care what I did with my kids? Maybe it will help someone think twice about whether their kid is really ready and if they are tired of paying for all those diapers…
Anyway, that’s my rant for the week!
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